Common issues couples experience during IVF treatment

Undergoing IVF treatment can surface unexpected and confronting issues in even the most resilient couples. Here are some common issues couples experience and how to tackle them!

Whether you are just starting for the first time or a few rounds in, IVF can feel like the miracle route to your longed-for addition one minute and like an endless and punishing path to parenthood the next.

IVF is still a taboo subject, and it feels like we are slowly rounding a corner as more and more people open up about it, but there's still so much stigma attached to it. So it's no wonder this creeps into the relationships of those going through it, too.

How IVF can change the dynamics of a relationship

Trying for a baby naturally as a male/female couple feels relatively equal, for the most part.

Initially, the process often starts with an innocent curiosity about what the issues might be or how each other's reproductive organs are measuring up. Then, when you learn more, facing the problems that might have been identified can be confronting. You'll each have different reactions, viewpoints, and ways of coping.

Then comes the logistics. One partner becomes the caregiver while the other undergoes the procedures.

Getting to the clinic on time, administering injections and medications, the new rush of hormones that can sometimes alter moods and physical comfort. Unfamiliar roles are taken up, adding to the pressure you are likely already carrying around.

Financial concerns can also become a heavy burden. What perhaps used to be spent on holidays together might now be siphoned off into the 'create a baby' fund.

It is not uncommon, probably quite the opposite, to feel anger; to become snappy and short-tempered, and to feel lost. And if you are not widely talking about your journey outside of your relationship, then the receiving end of those emotions unsurprisingly becomes your partner.

So, finding your way through this new world as individuals leads to the question, how do you stay connected as a couple?

Staying connected

It reached a point in our IVF journey where I felt like I was letting everyone down. A rare ectopic followed by one unsuccessful round before we were finally blessed with our successful pregnancy. Before then, I'd had multiple surgeries on my cervix for various reasons. I vividly recall looking down at my uterus and not understanding why it wasn't working, as if to start an argument with it.

People flippantly say that IVF is a rollercoaster. And yes, this is a fitting analogy. But it's also a tiresome narrative. Having been there, having snapped and barked at the world for not delivering me something I so wanted, I have pulled together some little tips on how to continue to link arms with your partner along an often troublesome path.

Lean into one another

Although it might feel off balance at times, you are in this together. You have shared hope and aim. To be able to find comfort, strength, and support in one another is going to be critical. It's crucial to keep talking, to know when it's best to give each other space.

Keep working on yourselves as individuals

It is a huge life lesson when you realize that no one else is responsible for your happiness or mental well-being. You are capable of beautiful things. This is not a 'turn that frown upside down' call to arms, but it is a suggestion to look into ways of calming your mind or relaxing your body. I turned to meditation, yoga, and daily affirmations, which helped my mental well-being and helped things at home.

Make some time

We were forced to stop IVF for three months following an ectopic, so we made sure that that time was spent enjoying each other's company again without the veil of treatment. Even if you don't press pause on treatment, you should still try and weave in some time where you have new experiences together or start a little regular tradition at home.

Talk to each other

Talking to each other is essential, but sometimes speaking to someone else can be a natural tonic. I was always so surprised and comforted that fertility issues are much more common than we realize. A problem was shared…

You must keep checking in on the reality of your situation, from finances to mental strength. Be prepared to take some time off at the moment that can feel like the exact opposite of what you want to do. You don't want to waste a second. But if your life is so out of balance due to the strains of IVF, then you should be prepared to take stock and consider your options. This could have a positive impact in the long run.

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